Should I let my daughter go on a camping trip with all boys?
James asked:
My 15 year old daughter was invited to go on a camping trip with three male friends from school and one of their fathers. I know these boys, and the dad, but I’m still uncomfortable about this. Would I be a bad mother if I let her go?
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I wouldnt send her why ask for trouble.Unless you go also. bubbles
I think you would be sending the wrong message by letting her go. Doreen K
No, you are not a bad mother. Just realize that if she goes, she is going to have sex. Java Man
If I were you I wouldn’t let her go, or I’d go with her. Guru4U
Don’t do it Linda D
no, but are you really comfortable having her around all those boys? maybeanotherday
No, you would not be a bad mother. I would feel uncomfortable about it too.
j E-vangelist
Java man, shut the hell up. You dont know her. And no you wont be a bad mother by letting her go. Remember this. Your household is not a democracy. They have no say. Nooone has a say but you. You run that house. its your decision. not ours. Gone to Eternity
How much of a hurry are you to be a grandmother. Letting her go is just asking for it. sameoleground
H*ll no you shouldn’t! You remember being 15 right? No matter how responsible she is that’s going to put her in a position where she could make a very stupid decision. Go with your gut on this one, you’re questioning it for a reason. She’ll thank you later. =] Heather
Since the dad is going, I would talk to him and decide whether I was comfortable with him as the leader of the trip. You know…find out how much he plans to supervise the kids and what the sleeping arrangements will be and such.
My mom let me go camping with a big group of friends (male and female) when I was 15, and we had a lot of fun and nothing went wrong (and there are no details that my mom would be horrified to hear about.) Zelda
That depends on whether or not you’ve taught her about sex and contraceptives and how to handle herself in a potentially uncomfortable situation.
If you have, then tell her to have fun. If you haven’t, then do so immediately.
The dad is really the one to speak to about making sure that nothing happens. If you trust him, then she should be fine.
You seem to ask a lot of urgent questions about protecting your daughter from boys, and one of them mentioned a 16 year old daughter doing laundry. Maybe you should be the one to do some parenting, or I call bullshit.
I had no idea that parents these days were so suffocating and smothering, I fear for the future that has no idea how to function or make decisions for themselves.
If she chooses to have sex, she doesn’t need a camping trip to do so, you might as well keep her on a short leash or a harness so that you know she is safe at all times. But she’ll never grow up if you don’t let her. Big Sky 23
bad idea. i geuss if you dont mind your daughter possibley coming home pregnant you could let her go. i would not allow my daughter to go camping with a bunch of boys Amanda C
Silly question, you would be asking for trouble. billy
I’d say it’s not a good idea. Just doesn’t seem ok. Something about it seems odd. Maybe if there was another girl and her mother….but no. I’d say no unless you also go along with your husband and maybe another of her girlfriends.
Go with your gut – it’s telling you the right answer even if you can’t put into words why. ethansmom
are you joking no way would she go without me have you seen all this going on in that school were 18 girls got pregnant and then on here there is always 12 year olds that are saying i am pregnant what do i do now no she does not go with out her mom katiesmom4805
You should voice your concerns with the father and get some assurances that he will supervise these young guys. Will your daughter have her own tent? I think she should at least have a pup tent for herself because you don’t want one of these guys rolling on her at night. (no not just a sleeping bag a tent) Other than that it should be good for her to learn to canoe or fish etc. Don’t let it be longer than a week. Not toooo much can happen in a week. And make sure this dad is a safety guy and ensures these young people wear life jackets in the boat even if they are strong swimmers. Your daughter will adore you for letting her go. Try and not worry but I think she will have a ball. katzy14
I would not let my daughter do this. I’m sure they’re good boys, but you never know what could happen. Don’t do it. 15 is so young. Melissa S
I went on camping trips as a teen. I was on the debate team and when we ended up with uneven numbers of guys and girls like 4 girls and 1 guy going, we’d even split up and room together. As far as I know, nothing sexual ever happened. I say it depends on your daughter. If she’s trustworthy and the guys are decent, I’m sure she’ll have a fabulous time. I agree with getting her her own tent and talking with the dad about level of supervision, but if she wants to have sex, she’s going to have sex in the afternoon behind the school… if you trust her let her have fun.
Catherine Catherine W
I wouldn’t let my daughter go there unless I go or another parent who is a mother and have one of her female friends come along, but I would not send my daughter by herself. dragongirl7805
I would not let her go. She’ll probably be mad at you for awhile but she’ll get over it and someday she’ll understand that it was in her best interest for you to say no. Why do these boys want her to come as the only girl anyway? strange. chattymom4
If the dad is there I don’t think there’s a problem honestly. But that’s just me. Maybe sit her down and talk about safe sex if you think she’d be having sex. Brooke.♥
just look at your question……….read it out loud and you will know the answer……….. ♥ Joey ♥
I don’t see the problem. I mean, I’d be uncomfortable too, but the father is going to be there. I doubt anything will happen. And besides, if she has 3 guy friends, she’s probably just “one of the guys” you know? You won’t be a bad mother for not letting her go. It’s your choice. But she will probably be very angry. Brit
if they’re just ”friends” it ok…. i hate when my mom don’t let me go out with my friend just coz they are all boys but she doesn’t get than they are just friends and nothing will happen Aly
I think it depends on your daughter and depends on the boys. If these are boys that she has grown up with, and they are just buddies and you know them and her relationship with them, I’d probably say yes, especially since there will be an adult there. (Notice that there are a lot of “ifs”)
However, if one of them is a “boyfriend” or she has any romantic interest in one of the boys, I’d probably say no. MamaBear
You should allow her to go but have another mom supervise and have her take 1 friend pok’e king